Tuesday, April 22, 2008

Prenatal Nurturance

As a midwife, I look forward to every prenatal. Yes, there are times when they are difficult. Yes, there are times when they are not warm and fuzzy. And I look forward to them all. I learn at least a little something at every prenatal. And with patience and compassionate observant listening, I learn lots. Here's a sketch of what a basic prenatal meeting looks like:

How long do prenatals last?

Prenatals typically last anywhere from 1-2 hours.

What do we do during a prenatal?
For the purpose of writing this out, I will divide the clinical aspects of the prenatal from the interpersonal aspects. In reality, all parts of our meetings together are interwoven, connected and integrated into creating a loving, safe environment in which mama and family is nurtured and everyone feels comfortable expressing, emoting and sharing. It is essential for me that trust between us is tended like a garden~ sown, watered, weeded, picked clean of pests and harvested. This goes hand in hand with tending to your belief in yourself as a woman, a mama and a birther as well as trusting birth in general.

Clinical:

*basic urinalysis
*blood pressure
*hemoglobin check, as needed
*palpation~ externally feeling the size and shape of your uterus; feeling your baby's growth and position; connecting with your baby
*measuring fundal height~ I measure, in centimeters, the distance between the top of your pubic bone and the top of your uterus (known as the fundus)
*listen to baby's heart; count beats per minute~ I use a fetoscope for this. I choose not to use a doppler. (Doppler use is another blog topic soon to come)

Nutritional Guidance:
I focus on nutrition because I believe it is the backbone of a healthy mama and therefore healthy baby. I encourage eating whole foods and every color of the rainbow. I share recipes and ideas for meals and snacks. I believe that eating healthfully is the single most important step a woman can take towards walking down the path of a comfortable glowing pregnancy and an optimal birth outcome. Choosing what you eat is one of the extrinsic factors affecting your pregnancy, your baby and your birth that you can control.

Getting to know one another/tending mutual trust:
As I discussed earlier, this is a key part of prenatal nurturance. When I invite people into my home to bear witness to my birth, I want to feel so very comfy with them. When I attend others births, I want to feel so very comfy with them. Much time is spent getting to know one another and sowing those seeds of trust. Together we become partners and comrades on this journey.

Information sharing:
I share any amount of information and answer what questions I can about all things pertaining to pregnancy and birth. If I don't know the answer to a question you ask, I'll say so. I'll research it with you. I'll learn and relearn. I'll say, "Thank you for teaching me that."
I'll eat up any information you and your family share with me.

Lending library:
I have books and videos I loan out to whomever is interested.

Laughter:
Very important clinical piece of prenatal nurturance.

"Laughter"
When the first baby laughed for the first
time the laugh broke into a thousand
pieces and they all went skipping about
and that was the beginning of the fairies.
~J.M. Barrie

And so much more than I can not put into words...

This evening as my family arrived home after an all day outing in a nearby town, my daughter exclaimed that "We went to a place where they make jam and papa bought A LOT of it." When I asked if perhaps he was hungry when they were there, she replied, "No. There were just many delicious samples and we tried them all." I thought, that's what I want to do, gather together midwives and we can give out free samples of prenatal nurturance. mmmmmmmm, delicious.
An hour and a half of deliciousness or a 10 minute intake of high tech space food?
Which would you choose?

Thursday, April 10, 2008

Greetings


I am a homebirth midwife in the state of Kansas. Also know as "The Freestate". I am entering the blogoshere in order to network and discuss and meet the many people in the homebirthing community. I have enjoyed reading a few homebirth blogs every once in a while. As I am a busy homeschooling mother of 3 and a midwife, my blogging time is limited. I look forward to connecting with more folks through birth talk.
Here is a poem that stretches across time, across birthing ideology, across all barriers. It is a gem of a poem by Carl Sandburg.

Being Born Is Important

Being born is important
You who have stood at the bedposts
and seen a mother on her high harvest day,
the day of the most golden of harvest moons for her.

You who have seen the new wet child
dried behind the ears,
swaddled in soft fresh garments,
pursing its lips and sending a groping mouth
toward the nipples where white milk is ready~

You who have seen this love's payday
of wild toil and sweet agonizing~

You know being born is important.
You know nothing else was ever so important to you.
You understand the payday of love is so old,
So involved, so traced with the circles of the moon,
So cunning with the secrets of the salts of the blood~
It must be older than the moon, older than the salt.

~Carl Sandburg